Moses (Adapted Self vs. Authentic Self)

Jan 18, 2026 • Chris Foster

SERMON SUMMARY

This sermon launches a relationship series examining how we often live from an "adapted self" - a protective version of ourselves developed in response to early wounds and fears - rather than our "authentic self" rooted in God's design. Using Moses as the primary example, the pastor explores how relationships are both our greatest blessing and greatest source of pain. The message emphasizes that deep formation in Christ requires authenticity, not performance, and that God uses relationships to move us toward wholeness. The sermon challenges listeners to surrender control, trust God's timing, and discover their true identity in Christ rather than living from self-protection mechanisms developed over years.

KEY POINTS

- One cannot be deeply formed in Christ and chronically unhealthy in relationships.

- The adapted self is formed in response to environment, wounds, and unmet needs to survive and protect ourselves.

- The authentic self is who we are when we live from our God-given identity in trust and obedience.

- Moses exhibited both adapted and authentic behaviors: violence and control (adapted), versus presence-centered leadership and intercession (authentic).

- Common adapted behaviors include need to control, performing for approval, false humility, withdrawal, and anger under pressure.

- God cares more about you than what you do for Him.

- The Holy Spirit has a specific pace for each person's life - we shouldn't try to run someone else's race.

- Meekness is not weakness but strength under control that doesn't need to prove itself.

- Our full, clear, authentic identity is found in Jesus Christ.

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

- Exodus 2:11-12 (Moses kills the Egyptian)

- Exodus 2:14-15 (Moses flees to Midian)

- Exodus 3:11 (Moses questions his calling)

- Exodus 4:10 (Moses claims he's slow of speech)

- Numbers 20:10-11 (Moses strikes the rock in anger)

- Exodus 33:11 (The Lord spoke to Moses face to face)